Posts in Love
Is It True That You Can't Help Falling in Love with Someone?

“I couldn’t help it. You can’t help who you fall in love with.” I heard a woman say this recently about her adultery with a married man with four daughters. The idea that we are helpless victims of love is a very ancient one. How does love happen? And how should we respond when our passions, desires, and instincts urge us to have sexual intimacy with someone if the Bible forbids it?

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It's Chemistry! Practical Advice for Protecting Your Marriage from an Affair

We hear stories of pastors having extramarital affairs, and we wonder how that could happen. Of course he knew better—he is a pastor! Well, most of the time, we can bet that sexual chemistry ignited the fuse. Here is some practical advice for protecting your marriage—and the marriages of others—from an affair.

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The Element of Physical Attraction in Romantic Relationships

I am regularly asked if it is important for a Christian man or woman to be physically attracted to the person they are dating. In order to fully answer this question, we must consider physical attraction from both a male and female perspective, while also considering why physical attraction may be lacking in either case.

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16 Ways to Find a Wife According to the Bible

As a pastor, over the years I had my fair share of people approach me to find out if we were a "courtship" church or a "dating" church. The people invariably would tell me that their approach was "the biblical way." The following list has been floating around the world-wide-web and makes a very important point. So here it is: 16 ways to find a wife according to the Bible.

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The Importance of Compatibility in Romantic Relationships

Much is made these days about compatibility when it comes to romantic relationships. One popular Christian dating website offers seven types of compatibility, including the nebulous “Personality Compatibility.” Scripture clears away the complexity by giving us only three areas with which we must concern ourselves regarding compatibility in romantic relationships.

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